The Talk of Wine & GF

Let me criticize myself first. I spent one of the most fruitless day today. Pillion riding with Devendra Bhattaria proved to be largely fruitless. Spending in front of computer proved to be fruitless. Watching a British cinema in the evening proved to be fruitless. I am now regretting why I spent more than an hour carrying a glass full of wine and pretending that I was drinking that. What an hypocrisy on my part. Sorry. I owe an apology to myself. I am sorry. I will never do that again. I know I am not a drinker and I cannot be one. That is fine. No problem. I do not regret for that. I do not care at all. But I know I should not pretend that I drink. I will never do that again. I know many people pretend on so many aspects in such gatherings but I think I should not have pretended.

The wine party (let me say the social gathering) started in time, at 5:30 PM, an hour ahead of the scheduled screening of “28 Days Later” in Gopi Krishna Cinema hall this evening. (I did not like the movie and that added extra pressure to think that I really wasted my time there.) I went there pillion riding with Girish Giri, my colleague at Kantipur, and took a glass of wine upon his kind ’suggestion’. With the glass of wine in my hand, I tried to see as much faces as possible in that small crowd and a foreigner girl caught my attention. But I did not go near her (and she did not come to me.)

Anyway, let me come to the drink talk.

“So you don’t drink?” asked Prem Khanal, the business bureau chief at the Kathmandu Post, the other day.

“No.” I replied.

“Not at all?” he frowned at me.

“Okay, beer. A glass at a time in the interval of a month.” I tried to prove myself. “I think last time I drank was a month ago.”

He dismissed beer as a serious drink and wanted to now if I drank hard drinks.

“No,” I replied. “No. no. I mean I cannot drink that even if I want. That does not mean I want but I simply cannot. So let me put it this way. Hard drinks are simply not compatible to me. I am not compatible to hard drinks.” And I told him how I unknowingly drank gin in an embassy party thinking that as water and how I threw that out of my mouth within seconds.

Okay, Prem daju seemed to be convinced by my arguments and points. But he was ready for the next big question.

“Do you have girlfriend?” he asked.

My answer was as honest as possible because I didn’t feel like lying to Prem Khanal. “No,” I said.

“So,” Prem thought for a few seconds before giving me a suggestion. “So, why don’t you go there and do dhyaan. You should replace that man.” He was referring to a controversial young yogi in southern Nepal who is attracting a lot of media attention these days because many people think he is the next Buddha. LOL.

You don’t drink, you don’t have a girlfriend. You should be a yogi instead of a reporter. I know he wasn’t serious but let me say that the question of girlfriend has become a matter of “prestige” (I hate using that term here.) The peer pressure is tremendous. Probably a friend of mine in Kantipur Complex (I don’t want to name him here because I am sure he doesn’t like that) knows it better. He is a failed lover and is trying to find a suitable woman for marriage. He likes not to talk about this but I can understand his eagerness.

Anyway, I am still with my old argument that to be without girlfriend means you enjoy a kind of freedom. I am enjoying that right now. No tension of being late in the date. No tension of finding suitable dating spot. No tension of making your girlfriend happy all the time. I think I told Prem Dhakal these benefits of being single.

Okay, back to that glass of wine. I know I was pretending. I pretended of shipping the wine several time. But I knew I was not drinking. So after holding the glass for about half an hour, I quietly went to a nearby table and left the glass there. I think I drank about 20 ml.

6 thoughts on “The Talk of Wine & GF

  1. LoL

    It has become a trend, when ppl rise into fame or step into limelight (specially in Nepal), they proudly declare that they are not involved in affairs ( listen to the beauty pageant winners, popstars, filmstars ,now even journalists), they have a common and readymade but dis-honest answer “i m busy in career making so have no time to think of partner”, R u doing the same Mr.wagle? coz u have now become a blogstar.

    U dont drink?, sounds gr8, yet, unbelievable.But i dont drink either.

    “All the unreachable grapes are sour ” hainata mr.Wagle? u dont have a gf and u r advocating for of life sans-girlfriend.If it is true that there is no girl halve in ur life, i must say, u are missing something terriblly exciting and intresting in life.Having gf is not burdensome always u know, it is all about how u take it. having gf is all about having someone in life to love you, to create reasons in ur life to smile and be happy, even if love hurts, the pain will be very sweet.

    Ani Mr.Wagle, who tells you these nonsense stuffs that it is tensionful to find a suitable place for dating, to be late for a dating and u have to make ur gf happy all the time huh? are you gone mad? do you think girls are fools, that, r they unhappy and fire all the times?, are not they normal human beings who can understand the delay caused by traffic jams ( common pretext),and do u think the dating spot are rare in ktm?, c’mon, u can enjoy a company anywhere, UMM! at a simple resturant, at the corner of the road or the rear of a park, u see,” NACHNA NAJANNE AAGAN TEDHO ” garnu ta bhayena ni yaar.

    And does ur “failed lover ” friend tell u such things? , but i didnt like the term u know, i mean, there is no term like “successful lover” , love is simply love, neither it suceeds nor fails, n lovers are simply lovers, the essence of love is to love, if u think marriage is the success of love then u r wrong, marriage just may be a succession of love.

    there are alot of benefits of having a gf, she makes u feel the comfortable sensation of human company. U will be able to understand woman sentiment, that ur gf is someone’s daughter n sister, this makes u be reasonably liberal to ur sisters , to understand the emotion of ur friend towards his gf, n eventually it leads u to respect and understand the feeling of all ur female counterparts.

    if u don have gf, it is definitely be unfair for would be Mrs. Wagle, that u should know how to be a good lover n hubby.Experience is a must for every business u know, though not compulsory.

    Did you get me? ah! if u find one gf, i bet, ur creativity and labor will not be curtailed by even a single inch, rather you will be even more dedicated and responsible towards ur job, the only differnce will be that, ur life was incomlete previosly and by then, ur life is complete n full of love n joy.

    Its an irony, despite all these benefits, true and deserving gfs are really rare but i hope and prey to the Almighty, may u get one soon

    n at last a sher of a ghajal by Jagjit Singh dedicated to you , which will make you understand me more.

    “HOSH WALON KO KHABAR KYA BEKHUDI KYA CHEESE HAI”
    “ISHQ KIJIYE PHIR SAMJHIYE, JINDAGI KYA CHEESE HAI”

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  2. Excellent answer Avipsha!

    Ani Mr wagle..wats ur opinion about it?

    lol…….i think u both r rite in ur places ..just the change of positions..anyways Goodluck to u …:)

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  3. It has become a trend, when ppl rise into fame or step into limelight (specially in Nepal), they proudly declare that they are not involved in affairs (listen to the beauty pageant winners, popstars, filmstars, now even journalists), they have a common and readymade but dis-honest answer \”i m busy in career making so have no time to think of partner\”, R u doing the same Mr.wagle? coz u have now become a blogstar.

    Thanks Avipsha for the wonderful remarks though I can\’t really say I agree with all the points. Also thanks for Nepaligirl who inspired me to write this reply to Avipsha. I was thinking of writing back but was too busy in other insignificant works. I think about girls and that\’s natural I guess. Talking about the \’blogstar\’ thing, I am not sure about that.

    U dont drink ?, sounds gr8, yet, unbelievable. But i dont drink either.

    I have drunk. I still drink if I HAVE to. But I don\’t enjoy drinking. I don\’t like drinking. Thats\’ not because to drink is too bad but because I have unwillingly concluded that drinking is not compatible with me.

    \”All the unreachable grapes are sour\” hainata mr. Wagle? u dont have a gf and u r advocating for of life sans-girlfriend.

    Might be true! LOL.

    If it is true that there is no girl half in your life, I must say, u are missing something terribly exciting and interesting in life. Having gf is not burdensome always u know, it is all about how u take it. Having gf is all about having someone in life to love you, to create reasons in ur life to smile and be happy, even if love hurts, the pain will be very sweet.

    Again, might be true.

    Ani Mr. Wagle, who tells you these nonsense stuffs that it is tension-ful to find a suitable place for dating, to be late for a dating and u have to make ur gf happy all the time huh?

    This is a debatable topic. I still stand by my view.
    Are you gone mad?

    I am not entirely sure!
    Do you think girls are fools, that, r they unhappy and fire all the times? Are not they normal human beings who can understand the delay caused by traffic jams (common pretext)?

    No, No. I don\’t. They are just as great.
    And do u think the dating spot are rare in ktm?, c\’mon, u can enjoy a company anywhere, UMM! at a simple resturant, at the corner of the road or the rear of a park, u see, NACHNA NAJANNE AAGAN TEDHO garnu ta bhayena ni yaar.

    Ha ha ha. Thanks yaar for the kind suggestion. I will definitely try next time with I, hopefully, get company.

    And does ur “failed lover ” friend tell u such things?, but i didnt like the term u know, i mean, there is no term like \”successful lover\”, love is simply love, neither it suceeds nor fails, n lovers are simply lovers, the essence of love is to love, if u think marriage is the success of love then u r wrong, marriage just may be a succession of love.

    No, the \’failed lover\’ doesn\’t tell me such things. The idea about love and marriage seems incredible.

    There are a lot of benefits of having a gf, she makes u feel the comfortable sensation of human company. U will be able to understand woman sentiment, that ur gf is someone\’s daughter n sister, this makes u be reasonably liberal to ur sisters, to understand the emotion of ur friend towards his gf, n eventually it leads u to respect and understand the feeling of all ur female counterparts.

    I just can\’t disagree with you.

    if u don have gf, it is definitely be unfair for would be Mrs. Wagle, that u should know how to be a good lover n hubby. Experience is a must for every business u know, though not compulsory.

    LOL. Might be true.

    Did you get me? ah! if u find one gf, i bet, ur creativity and labor will not be curtailed by even a single inch, rather you will be even more dedicated and responsible towards ur job, the only difference will be that, ur life was incomplete previously and by then, ur life is complete n full of love n joy.

    Again, I think you are right.

    Its an irony, despite all these benefits, true and deserving gfs are really rare but i hope and prey to the Almighty, may u get one soon.

    Thank you.

    n at last a sher of a ghajal by Jagjit Singh dedicated to you , which will make you understand me more.

    HOSH WALON KO KHABAR KYA BEKHUDI KYA CHEESE HAI
    ISHQ KIJIYE PHIR SAMJHIYE, JINDAGI KYA CHEESE HAI

    LOL. At the end, I think, as Nepaligirl observes, we are both correct on out stands. Ki kaso, Nepaligirl? LOL

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  4. What about your current status Dinesh Ji? Sad to be the one to bring the bad news but seems like your Dreamgirl Ash is also getting married to Abhishek Bachhan!😦

    “No, the “failed lover” does not tell me such things. The idea about love and marriage seems incredible.”

    No worries though, you unlike a friend of fine who talks of being a Sanyasi due to a heartbreak seem to be very much wanting to taste Love! All the best!

    ( re-reading ur entries in a sleek blog as told by another commentator)

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  5. My current status Subhachintak?

    Katro chinta ho testo?

    Ash getting married? Truly a heartbreaking news and whenever I try to translate that news for Kantipur, I feel like Oh…I don’t want to write this news!! Ha, ha..

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  6. Katro chinta ho testo?

    Bakhin backeka eligible bachelor ko chinta nagere kasto garnu ni! Kina dar lagyo ki kaso Wagleji!! the Truth is always Bitter!

    Don’t cry over spilt milk..there’s life beyond the computer screen so Chill! hahaha

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